Updated: Sep 4, 2020
Whether it is an innate mechanism that we were born with or something that human society teaches, we enter into the world learning how to judge. You learn which foods to eat and not eat. What objects to touch and which people are safe. This judgement process is beneficial in order to survive. However I often find my judgement processes go haywire.
I tend to judge myself and others by how much money they have or what they look like. The money that I make is not "enough" or my body is not attractive "enough". One of the most freeing experiences has been to be able to let go of these judgements. By accepting situations as they are in this moment without assigning a value label to them I can truly just be. I have also come to appreciate that everything is constantly in motion, even if you can not see it moving in front of you. When I stop judging myself, I stop judging others because I am not holding myself in comparison to them any longer.
Something that has really helped me with this transition are gratitude lists. When I am having a hard minute, hour or day I can reset my mind-frame by quickly listing ten things that I am grateful for in this moment and come to appreciate all that I have in my life.
A meditation practice that enlightens this thought for me is the "Soham" meditation. This mantra translates to "I am that, that I am". Another loose translation is "I am you, you are me". This mantra is also very special because it mimics the natural sounds of the breath. You can hear "soooooo" as you inhale through your nose and "huuuummm" as you exhale through the nose. I find that I can refocus my thinking and connect with the idea of no judgement by stopping for a minute to practice this refreshing mediation.